I actually knew this would be a victory story - because the post wasn't long enough to chronicle the fall of the Roman Empire many thought it would be.
I think the confusion for many, reaches past your statement about differing marriages and wives.
I'd suggest that you knew it would work, because of the elements your relationship with her, was/is founded on and made up of.
This is what those guys who cornered you, knew about their own relationships and while I cannot say what the specific details of theirs were, it wouldn't be a stretch to think trust and power struggles issues, were present.
It'd be interesting to hear the "why" of why you knew your wife would see your gesture and gift, the way she did, and you intended. That really is the key to this, her and the framework of your relationship and marriage.
I've been in both types of relationships and the reasons behind each of the two possible reactions, are where the lessons lie.
I am very glad that you were right and it all worked out! I remember I 100% thought it was going to be a giant mistake (though clearly sweet and well-intentioned). You clearly did know your wife much better than other people thought you did, even though you were still young and early into marriage. I understand the concern of the men in your life, but I am glad they were wrong. :) I couldn't even wrap my mind around her not choosing it, since I personally have an opinion on every.single.thing about a house and am very, very picky! But I am not her, and I couldn't understand that back then. Cheers for you and your good instincts about it! Love ya. :)
I didn't know you were on team “don't buy the house” — that's funny! Yes, it worked out exactly as a hoped. Fortunately, I'm a really, really good listener so I know her pretty well.
One of the many reasons I married my wife is because I would trust her to make this kind of decision with without me. If she was like “should we move” and I was cool with the city she wanted to move to, I’d be like “Sure. You do it. It’s all you.” 😆 I haven’t made a substantive decision in my life for 14 years. It’s been great. I married wayyy up
Great Story Ron!
I actually knew this would be a victory story - because the post wasn't long enough to chronicle the fall of the Roman Empire many thought it would be.
I think the confusion for many, reaches past your statement about differing marriages and wives.
I'd suggest that you knew it would work, because of the elements your relationship with her, was/is founded on and made up of.
This is what those guys who cornered you, knew about their own relationships and while I cannot say what the specific details of theirs were, it wouldn't be a stretch to think trust and power struggles issues, were present.
It'd be interesting to hear the "why" of why you knew your wife would see your gesture and gift, the way she did, and you intended. That really is the key to this, her and the framework of your relationship and marriage.
I've been in both types of relationships and the reasons behind each of the two possible reactions, are where the lessons lie.
Beautiful story!
I am very glad that you were right and it all worked out! I remember I 100% thought it was going to be a giant mistake (though clearly sweet and well-intentioned). You clearly did know your wife much better than other people thought you did, even though you were still young and early into marriage. I understand the concern of the men in your life, but I am glad they were wrong. :) I couldn't even wrap my mind around her not choosing it, since I personally have an opinion on every.single.thing about a house and am very, very picky! But I am not her, and I couldn't understand that back then. Cheers for you and your good instincts about it! Love ya. :)
I didn't know you were on team “don't buy the house” — that's funny! Yes, it worked out exactly as a hoped. Fortunately, I'm a really, really good listener so I know her pretty well.
Well said.
One of the many reasons I married my wife is because I would trust her to make this kind of decision with without me. If she was like “should we move” and I was cool with the city she wanted to move to, I’d be like “Sure. You do it. It’s all you.” 😆 I haven’t made a substantive decision in my life for 14 years. It’s been great. I married wayyy up
That’s correct, and you're kind of proving my point... this wouldn't work for most people, but it did for us. That's exactly what I'm saying.