My dad had a fairly similar life to you. He got married fairly young (23), had 5 kids and worked as a financial planner. When I asked him what his "dream job" would be, if not financial planning, he couldn't answer. His goals and meaning in life almost all related to wife, children, friends and relatives.
Nice! It's not a bad thing per se... I love my family, and being a husband and father was my biggest goal in life. But when people push and say, "What could you do if you do anything?" I just don't have a good answer to that.
Happy 40th Birthday to you!!! Loved reading your thoughts on Ron Stauffer: Volume 1. May the best be yet to come! I think a lot of these feelings and musings are a completely natural thing most people go through at one point, or another. I've had lots of thoughts about life, especially since Riley died, on where I am compared to where I thought I would be. What I regret, what I changed my mind on. I've had several "life crises" at different points, at 25, 35, 39, 41. I'm sure I'll have more. It's good to just stop and see what is working, what is not, what you would change if you can. I hope you can find a great new direction to go from here! Especially since like age 38 or so, Chris and I are both very averse to wasting time in any way. You learn that really the most valuable commodity in life is time. And the question is: how do I spend that time and what do I prioritize??
We’re at a stage like that too: we have less than five year until we will (or can) be empty nesters. That doesn't bother me, but there is a sense of “we have to fit in all the good stuff and make lots of memories before the kids are gone,” and that can get overwhelming.
I just keep saying: “We’ll do the best job we can and it is what it is.” So we try not to rush it but not panic either.
My dad had a fairly similar life to you. He got married fairly young (23), had 5 kids and worked as a financial planner. When I asked him what his "dream job" would be, if not financial planning, he couldn't answer. His goals and meaning in life almost all related to wife, children, friends and relatives.
Nice! It's not a bad thing per se... I love my family, and being a husband and father was my biggest goal in life. But when people push and say, "What could you do if you do anything?" I just don't have a good answer to that.
Happy 40th Birthday to you!!! Loved reading your thoughts on Ron Stauffer: Volume 1. May the best be yet to come! I think a lot of these feelings and musings are a completely natural thing most people go through at one point, or another. I've had lots of thoughts about life, especially since Riley died, on where I am compared to where I thought I would be. What I regret, what I changed my mind on. I've had several "life crises" at different points, at 25, 35, 39, 41. I'm sure I'll have more. It's good to just stop and see what is working, what is not, what you would change if you can. I hope you can find a great new direction to go from here! Especially since like age 38 or so, Chris and I are both very averse to wasting time in any way. You learn that really the most valuable commodity in life is time. And the question is: how do I spend that time and what do I prioritize??
Thanks, Beck!
We’re at a stage like that too: we have less than five year until we will (or can) be empty nesters. That doesn't bother me, but there is a sense of “we have to fit in all the good stuff and make lots of memories before the kids are gone,” and that can get overwhelming.
I just keep saying: “We’ll do the best job we can and it is what it is.” So we try not to rush it but not panic either.